TOD 2015 - Staff Health

This morning we had a two and a half hour workshop with Life Coach Denise Simons from Relate Coaching, www.relatecoaching.co.nz.

This workshop was brought about in recognition of the need to provide our staff with strategies to cope with stress.

We began by listing the positive and negative aspects of 2014.  We then listed what we predict will be the positive and negative aspects of 2015.   By doing this we were able to voice our stresses and then wipe them clean.

We also learnt how to how we are both 'Wairua and Skin Bag'.  Often we let the skin bag side of ourselves take over.  We leart a simple technique of using your hand as a reminder to change that voice inside your head to wairua when the skin bag side (stress) gets too loud.

We then went through a process called Getting Complete.  This involved acknowledging how you react when your back is up against the wall.  Do you get resentful or upset?  From here we worked through listed things that we were resentful about or regretted.  Then we listed our requests and finished off by acknowledging the process in order to be complete and move on from the things that we regret/resent.

After this we learnt how to be Committed Listeners.  This technique is used to scaffold the 'getting complete' strategy.  You need to find a buddy who will listen to you and commit to being available and keep your discussions confidential.  We learnt the process and the rules for being a Buddy.  We then practiced with a Buddy.  This technique allows the speaker to speak and be heard by their buddy and themselves.  It acknowledges the need for the speaker to realise that they have been heard and therefore are able to move forward with an action to resolve the issue discussed or to clear the slate because your aired your issue.

Overall it was a good morning.  Basic message is, acknowledge positive and negative stresses.  Use the strategies to minimise and move on from stress.  Remember your Wairua side and don't allow your skin bag to dominate.  Maintain your integrity with yourself otherwise you will not be able to maintain integrity with others or with what you are passionate about.  Seek support - make regular 'appointments' to meet with your Buddy.  List your regrets/resentments and work through the getting complete process in order to move on and leave the stress behind.

Ahhhhh, my Wairua is speaking to me now and it wants to sing and dance to music.  So chow!